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He says I must pray with him and forget about my beliefs, but it's only because...
Because nothing – there is no excuse for spiritual abuse.
Using faith or spirituality to control a partner or stop them from practicing their own beliefs is serious and inexcusable.
Spiritual abuse can include (but is not limited to)…
- Stopping a partner from mixing with their spiritual or cultural community
- Not allowing a partner to practice their beliefs and customs
- Forcing a partner to practice beliefs or customs which they don’t subscribe to
- Shaming a partner for not practicing their beliefs strictly enough
- Using spiritual beliefs to justify abuse or harmful behaviour.
Sometimes I follow her movements to see what she's doing, but it's only because...
Because nothing – there is no excuse for stalking.
Harassing someone with unwanted contact or attention is serious and inexcusable.
Stalking can include (but is not limited to)…
- Following someone or tracking their movements
- Repeatedly trying to make unwanted conversation with someone
- Giving inappropriate or unwanted gifts
- Constantly turning up at someone’s home or place of work
- Repeatedly sending messages or leaving notes for someone.
He doesn't like me contacting my friends anymore, but it's only because...
Because nothing – there is no excuse for social abuse.
Controlling who a partner can see or talk to is serious and inexcusable.
Social abuse can include (but is not limited to)…
- Monitoring a partner’s whereabouts and who they’re with
- Stopping a partner from seeing or contacting certain people or groups of people
- Forcing a partner to live too far away from family or friends
- Sabotaging a partner’s relationships or damaging their reputation
- Embarrassing a partner in front of other people.
Sometimes when I forget things he gets pretty mad, but it's only because...
Because nothing – there is no excuse for psychological or emotional abuse.
Threatening, frightening, belittling or embarrassing a partner is serious and inexcusable.
Emotional abuse can include (but is not limited to)…
- Verbal aggression and fits of rage
- Threatening to leave or self-harm as blackmail
- Regularly teasing or putting someone down to damage a partner’s self-worth
- ‘Gaslighting’ or tricking and lying to make a partner question their own sanity
- Constantly correcting or criticising to diminish a partner’s confidence.
He looks through my phone every now and then, but it's only because...
Because nothing – there is no excuse for technological abuse.
Using technology or devices to control, embarrass or demean a partner is serious and inexcusable.
Technological abuse can include (but is not limited to)…
- Sending nude or embarrassing images of a partner to other people
- Tracking a partner’s whereabouts using a phone or GPS device without consent
- Accessing a partner’s private messages or conversations
- Posting messages from a partner’s accounts
- Using technology to send someone unwanted images or messages.
For help and advice on technology-facilitated abuse visit esafety.gov.au/women.
I told her, once we have kids she'll have to quit her job, but that's only because...
Because nothing – there is no excuse for financial abuse.
Controlling a partner’s access to money or finances to limit their freedom or financial power is serious and inexcusable.
Financial abuse can include (but is not limited to)…
- Not letting a partner have debit/credit cards or access to bank accounts
- Not giving a partner access to shared bank accounts
- Spending or borrowing a partner’s money without their consent
- Forcing a partner to quit their job or lose their income
- Holding back funds for necessities like food, medication, or disability-related equipment.